Parent of an alcoholic

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Parent of an alcoholic

This page assumes that you are the parent of a youth that you assume/know is an alcoholic. If you are in doubt use the assessment and information at Youth.

With recognition to an article in Readers Digest of June 2003 (p 43).

You should not be too harsh in your judgement as alcohol is one of the many risks a teenager will take in the process to discover boundaries whilst growing up.

You can do the following to behave constructively:

Step One: Reject the behaviour, not the child. Discuss this behaviour only when he is sober. Inform him that it is unacceptable and will not be tolerated.

Step Two: Understand the situation. Look for cues and triggers in understanding his reasons for drinking. You may want to consider the following:

The reasons mentioned in the assessment for grown ups.

Peer pressure. See the part underneath on peer pressure.

Worries.

Depression.

Boredom.

Feelings of guilt.

Causes of alcoholism.

	Step Three: A practical plan. Once you have better understanding of the causes, make practical plans to improve the situation, e.g. counter boredom with ...., avoid risky situations by ... Please see how the youth is trapped with marketing.
	Step Four: Communicate. Establish and maintain communication. Create a routine for talking. Not only is his avoidance of these sessions an indicator to you, but it also is an opportunity for you to demonstrate your open-mindedness in understanding, helping and supporting him in the difficult issues in his life. Refrain from judging. He needs to know that you are his support in issues that are good or bad.
	Step Five: Seek help. Not only is it a sign of maturity, but you and your child will be motivated by realising that you are not unique in your difficult circumstances. If you feel you are out of your depth, contact us or any of the supporting organisations.

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Peer Pressure. You can also consider to test your child for drug abuse as a method of checking on his behaviour. This opens the opportunity for the child to decline abuse opportunities in the group by mentioning that he will be tested. This arrangement may be for real or not.

For ordering a chemical test click on http://www.drugtestyourteen.com/ .

Last updated on 18 April 2007

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